Our family life was harmonious. My wife, Zofia, worked as a teacher. She completed her studies at the University of Warsaw, which she had begun before the war. Later, she persuaded me to continue my studies as well. We both worked professionally and volunteered, primarily for the Korczak Committee. We were raising three sons. Despite our many activities, we devoted a lot of time and, most importantly, attention to them. We often had to be incredibly patient (because, as the Doctor used to say, "having a child isn't easy at all"). We took into account our boys' likes and dislikes, their dreams, desires, and aversions, as well as their outside interests.
We ate breakfast together, but in a hurry. Dinner, however, was leisurely. It was a time for conversation, chatting, and telling stories. Everyone helped themselves to their plate, mindful of the others' appetites. It wasn't polite to leave leftovers on their plates. We, the parents, recounted the events of the previous day and the people we met. The boys also began to share what made them happy, worried, or problematic. They didn't hide their "sins." They weren't afraid of punishment. We took their various matters and activities seriously, even though to many other adults they would probably seem ridiculously trivial. When it came to taking a stance on their problems, we were cautious but honest. For example, the teacher wasn't always right. Not all adults were wise and kind. Children had the right to respect and... protest. A few examples. Our Marian was interested in chemistry and had above-average knowledge in the subject. However, he received only a passing grade for the semester. He wanted us to discuss this with the teacher. I suggested he try it himself. And then, after dinner, he recounted his conversation with the chemist. The teacher's main objection was the student's poorly kept notebook. I told him – our son reported – that if a fire broke out and all the notebooks kept by the girls, kept in perfect order, were destroyed, perhaps the most important thing would be what remained in our heads. We agreed with the boy's arguments, but regarding the notebook, we had a slightly different opinion.
Third-grader Gabriel repeatedly claimed that his new "teacher" was bad because she was unfair. One day, he came home from school pale with anger. During lunch, he told us that someone had broken a window in the classroom. The teacher declared it was definitely Marek Jurgaś. And Marek had just been to the school dentist. The children gathered around the teacher, shouted, "Yes, it's Marek, it's Marek!" he recounted indignantly. "But you, son, didn't shout like that, and why are you practically crying about it?" Gabryś replied, "No, I didn't shout like that, but I didn't scream that it wasn't Jurgaś at all..." The child felt guilty and had a sensitive conscience. We chatted for a long time about wrongs, justice, injustice, and also disgusting hypocrisy.
My youngest son, Romek, had a beloved teddy bear. He would lie in bed with it and cuddle it. One day, the distraught child told us that Teddy Bear had lost his eye. We searched for the eye for a long time—but in vain. We tried in vain to comfort the distraught Romek. Finally, my wife said, "Don't worry, son, we'll buy you a new teddy bear tomorrow." At this, the little one, looking at his mother with utter amazement, gasped, "But it's mine."
To defuse the awkward situation, I suggested Romek take a bike ride in the nearby Saxon Garden. He forgot about the bear for a while, but that evening he went to sleep with his Teddy bear, cuddling him tenderly. Once the children were asleep, my wife and I returned to the bear issue. Zofia confessed that the child simply annoyed her.
I was embarrassed. "Yes, I can adapt to the concepts children use," she said, "but I couldn't, as Korczak said, rise to their feelings so as not to offend, not to touch. I failed as a mother and as a teacher." It's not without reason that I claim that Korczak played a significant role in our family home. As I mentioned, my wife, Zofia, forced me to complete the studies I began before the war. It was no coincidence, then, that when the Minister of National Defense, Marshal Spychalski, congratulated me, a graying top student, on my promotion, he primarily honored her contribution to my academic achievements.
Absorbed in our studies, busy with professional and social work, and raising our own children, we did indeed notice many disturbing phenomena in political and social life, but for a long time, we focused on the individual trees, missing the forest. After periods of exposed "errors and distortions" and solemn assurances that things would be completely different, many people began to trust again. For too long, I, too, had lived under illusions.
Since 1967, fierce factional infighting within the party has resulted in a brutal crackdown on political opponents and mass repression. The warring factions vied with each other in their use of anti-Semitic slogans. I will not engage in politics. Fortunately, it is not my domain. However, the "side effects" soon became apparent. It was suggested, and then emphatically pressed, that I, as chairman, convene a general meeting of the Korczak Committee and resign my position under any circumstances. In times of rampant anti-Semitism, true Poles can do more in this field. I firmly refused. For my part, Kazik Dębnicki, a member of the board, declared that if I were to convene such a meeting to transform the Committee into a "judenfrei" association, he would at least not participate. I assured him that I would have no hand in this disgusting machination. And what happens next, we'll see... The security authorities soon suspended the Committee's activities, and the premises were sealed. "Życie Warszawy"—a widely read daily newspaper—called Korczak a Polonized Jew. He was no longer a great Polish educator, as I was a few years after the war. Not even a bourgeois, unsuitable for educating the younger generation in the spirit of "socialist morality." Just a nobody. Everything that was happening around me, what the newspapers were constantly writing about, what was persistently repeated on television, completely shattered my false hopes; I stopped feeling "at home and among my own people." A desperate decision was made: to leave this country. At the "non-emigration" age, we decided to emigrate. I was 58 years old. Is it possible to start over? Yes, there is no other way!
Sweden welcomed us. We emigrated – as my wife put it, not without bitterness – and took Dr. Janusz Korczak with us… And the only capital we brought with us was our established family. In Stockholm, after a six-month Swedish language course, we found employment at the Institute of Pedagogical Research at the Higher School of Teacher Training. It turned out that none of the serious academics working there even knew Korczak by name. The university library was dominated by American pedagogical works.
My wife and I, taking advantage of the generosity of others, began our Korczak activities. Talks, press interviews, a Swedish translation of King Matthias ("King Matthias I"), radio programs of a theatre of imagination for schoolchildren based on the work, and signs of interest among my colleagues at the university. A significant obstacle was the lack of fluent Swedish. In any case, the Korczak Committee was formed and exists, and not just on paper.
It's difficult to accurately translate the name of our association into Polish: "Föreningen för Janusz Korczaks levande arv," but loosely translated it would be: "Association for the Promotion of the Living Heritage of Janusz Korczak." We published Korczak's "The Child's Right to Respect" (Barnets rätt till respekt) and "How to Love a Child" (Hur man älskar ett barn) in Swedish. They became required reading for students at both the Higher School of Teacher Training and Stockholm University. In this way, Korczak—to my delight—entered the world of higher education, and I hope he will continue to pave his own path there.
Doctor Sven Hartman plays a crucial role in animating and promoting our work. I'm thinking, among other things, of his work. His insightful approach to the issue, appearances on radio and television, as well as the valuable article Korczak seen through the eyes of a Swede - included in the brochure Korczak - a humanist pedagogue published by our association.